The field where the military dominates all others is the development of
weaponry, so certainly the atomic weapons owe their existence at that point in time to the war. But you make a broader claim about the history of technology in that simply doesn't hold up.
Certainly a war greatly accelerates development of military applications, which can drive the broader technology forward, but invariably the basic work is done before the war: crude radar was developed before the war, powered flight pretty famously was developed outside of war, modern rocketry has its early days in the inter-war period, and fission was mastered before the war.
So the basis for all these "revolutionary" weapon technologies lie outside of war time research, and thus would plausibly have been developed regardless, if a bit later. In fact, the USA is the only country to have developed nukes during a war, all others have done it in peace time, and many have done it with very little outside assistance (besides the fairly important knowledge that it is possible at all).
On closer inspection I find the claim that many technologies owe their existence to the military, and the particular needs of war, to be very overblown: certainly weaponisation of technologies own much to war, but people tend to not be very clear on the detail that the miraculous technological development of a rocket that can fly very far before crashing at a predetermined spot isn't very helpful for society at large.
The technologies we enjoy today don't owe that much to those developed for killing.