That seems like a very good strategy if you want to use nukes as a deterrent. I don't think this follows if you are planning on actually using them.
> That's because the problem with nuclear weapons is their unlimited ability to quickly escalate destruction.
This is tempered quite a bit by the target's economic ability. South Africa doesn't have an "unlimited ability to quickly escalate". Neither does Pakistan or North Korea. Those countries do have nukes, but they are so poor, it's just not plausible they have many, or particularly high yield ones at that.
Your point does hold for the US, Russia and China, though.