I'm sure it varies from one group to the other. This CppCon talk from 2014 says no exceptions are permitted in mars rover flight software.
https://github.com/CppCon/CppCon2014/blob/master/Presentatio...
https://github.com/CppCon/CppCon2014/blob/master/Presentatio...
Instead of having a Constructor + init method you could have a static create function which returns an optional or a pair.
I have a hard time seeing in what case you would want to throw in a destructor though? Maybe I'm just writing a different kind of code :)
I can't imagine that case either - but what I can imagine is that your destructor calls a function that calls a function ... that calls a function you didn't realize can throw.
Point being it's not entirely orthogonal to "performance".