I like Jitsi, it works well in my personal setting (kids talk for hours with the grand parents)... Other tips?
If you are using a system with the apt package manager (such Debian or Ubuntu), you basically only have to run two commands: https://github.com/jitsi/jitsi-meet/blob/master/doc/quick-in...
Which I had, yet for maintenance reasons a container-based solution had my preference: https://github.com/jitsi/docker-jitsi-meet
100% agreed about spotty connections, it does not handle them very well. As long as everyone has a decent connection and enough CPU, it handles groups of 10+ participants just fine. My company ended up switching to Google Meet for reliability reasons, but was a year ago so it might be better now.