This misses the point, just because someone sometimes added me to their phone contacts and uses signal does not mean I want them notified when I start using signal too.
It sounds like Signal is trying to solve a different problem than the one you have, so you should probably look for a different solution.
IIRC, Signal's goal is easy to use mass-market E2E encrypted replacement for SMS messaging. If they didn't automatically notify people's contacts, then most of them would probably continue to SMS or use FB messenger, etc.