Option 1: Never permit vulgar language in public settings to satisfy people who are offended.

Option 2: Always permit vulgar language in public settings to satisfy those who wish to be vulgarly expressive.

Option 3: Use euphemisms and placeholders, so everybody gets something but not everything. Crucially, it signals mutual respect.

See, also, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polite_fiction

Using stars like this is like cursing behind your hand or under your breath. Expressing honest contempt but in a sort of distanced way while maintaining composure, in contrast to say a full on rant.