In apartments, there is a mutual understanding of common elements and that people are living in a shared space. There is also a mediation process through the building management and the board.

In the burbs, is is a wild west with no mediation/arbitration process. There is a huge sense of entitlement on both sides - "this is my property and I can do what I want" vs. "you are encroaching on my property/rights and I will complain/behave passive aggressively about everything".

Everything you mentioned are issues in suburbs as well - often more so:

- Neighbors dog in the backyard barking all damn day.

- Neighbor throwing BBQ/party in the yard w/ music, and loud laughing/talking late into the night.

- Kids yelling/laughing/screaming.

- Teenagers revving cars up and down the streets

- Lawnmower at 6 in the morning

Trust me, I've lived in both. Apartments have a process to handle unacceptable behavior and disputes. Suburbs are way worse - if you are looking for more private space, you need to go rural where houses sit on large lots.