Well, take the numerous articles extolling the virtues of Sequel, or DataMapper, or, related to the current discussion, Ecto itself. Like how expressive this stuff is. And how ActiveRecord creates a too huge API surface on models, and that that leads to bad design, etcetera. Now to mention the callbacks, which are admittedly problematic.
But then I try those aforementioned libs and see sharp corners like terrible argument validations (in case of Sequel) which lead to silently failing code, or actual hard limitations on what I can ask Ecto to do without resorting to meta-programming.
> I also haven't ever found a good replacement for AR migrations
IME, both Sequel and Ecto migrations are fairly serviceable. But neither provides the schema dumping feature that AR has. Which is pretty handy.