In your situation, I would simply start to eat along with children, because they are hungry and have bed time. Even if you called, you cant reasonably expect everyone to wait for you with dinner for an hour. I would also expect the partner to let me know in advance, but if he is forgetful we would either eat or call.
> People do that all the time - A person who has promised their partner they'll get home by 6:30pm every evening for dinner has ceded control over their schedule. Nothing unusual about that.
I was literally reacting to parent who said this: "you could accomplish the same thing by reliably leaving work at the same time every day - but some would say ceding authority over your own schedule is a greater indignity than ceding privacy over your current location."
In any case, promising something is not ceding authority by any reasonable definition. Parent claimed that having partners location all the time is necessary to avoid "ceding authority over schedule". Theory was his, not mind
> A partner who will have dinner ready when you get home from work doesn't seem like a red flag to me.
When that requires constant location tracking, then it is red flag. If your schedule have you coming in within an hour long span, I find it odd to organize the dinner so that it is done exactly wherever you come it. I would expect the dinner be more regular, at the time when you are usually already at home.