The southern accent thing is very relatable to me, as in my own country (Brazil) I have a very distinct southern accent too (I grew up in a rural area like many folks here).
The southern accent thing is very relatable to me, as in my own country (Brazil) I have a very distinct southern accent too (I grew up in a rural area like many folks here).
One of the small joys of my life right now is working with folks with thick accents in positions of seniority. At my previous job, we had a chief scientist who also came from NC. At one point, he told me that he'd suppressed his accent until he was promoted past the level where anyone could judge how he said things instead of what he said.
Ever since I was a child, others have observed that I speak in a remarkably Broadcast English accent (it was usually described as "you have no accent at all", or "you sound just like the news reporters"). That "neutral American accent" you are after is called General American English, and is still an evolving area [1]. The West Coast lends some of its artifacts to this neutral accent, but General American English is an ambiguous kind of a prestige accent that stands relatively apart from its constituent regional accents.
In daily work however, I determined in my use cases that careful enunciation and appropriate vocabulary for my audience (especially for public speaking) count for far more to obtain engagement and active involvement than my accent. The enunciation part required careful, conscious effort in everyday settings before it could take root as a habit in my consulting work, and led to noticeable sales engagement improvement; I wasn't well-off enough at the time to afford a speech coach.
Ironically, I'm horrible at understanding thick accents myself, currently training myself to get better at that skill by listening to YouTube videos and engaging my coworkers with thick accents over audio chats instead of text chats. It takes a tremendous amount of my attention to parse thick accents, while others seem to take them in stride.
I'm actually from Mississippi, so I have an even thicker accent than all but the most rural Texans, and while we were dating, she interjected during one of our talks about politics and life, with, "I could listen to you talk for hours...".
I was genuinely flattered. When I asked why, it as much the same reasoning you gave. I apparently have peculiar word choices that, when combined with an advanced education and a wide and diverse range of interests, causes a lot of cognitive bias in those who hear me speak.
I never suppressed my accent in my career and have done well for myself. That being said, there have been occasions where I could tell I was in a room full of people who assumed I was a dumb southerner. That was to their detriment not mine.
As a side note, I did teach myself how to speak in a completely mid-atlantic accent which is pretty cool because it's not a real accent so nobody knows where you are from. If you want to teach yourself an accent, I would suggest learning mid-atlantic, as you will never run across a native speaker, it will throw people off and strike up a lot of conversation.
It's funny but accents, at least in native language are actually fairly fungible. If someone takes the effort, they can easily fake an accent to fairly realistic abilities so long as they are familiar with the dialect. I can fake a Italian/Brooklyn accent to fairly decent accuracy as most native English speaking Americans are able to. It might not fool a Brooklyn native, but it is good enough to fool the average American. We can thank Rocky Balboa for that. I can fake most southern accents to the extent that I can fool native speakers, but unless you are intricately familiar with the region it is hard to fool natives because there are usually hyper-dialects, I can tell where a person is from if they are from the south based on the southern accent. Yet, most people out of the south cannot tell the difference. For example, a Texas draw from the Old Florida draw, I can tell because I am from Florida, I have it and I get asked if I am from Texas all the time, yet I know when someone is from Texas as it is different in it's inflections. As well Georgia and Alabama are distinct from North Carolina and Tennessee wheras Mississippi is a mix, get too far north and they sound like Tennessee, east and it sounds like Alabama, south west and it sounds like Cajun, but it blends and that is how you can tell they are from Mississippi because they will use colloquialisms from other local accents.