> EDIT: as you can tell, I’m not a parent - and am still too mentally close to adolescence :)

Just a general remark: If you're not a parent [1], don't tell others how to be parents. It's okay to ask questions (e.g., "why are you doing it like this instead of like that?"), but don't believe you know what you're talking about.

[1] "Parent" as in "functionally a parent", not necessarily "biologically a parent". If you're raising a child, you're a parent, even if they aren't your biological child.