But there’s a general truth to sexual attractiveness in there, and it’s better to accept the reality as it is and adapt.
Sometimes it's better to just learn the dance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX40mBb8bkU
Remember what the dormouse said: Shave your head (or something like that)
Even a cursory consideration of the numerous bald celebrities should be sufficient to disabuse yourself of this notion. There is no general truth to sexual attractiveness as related to hair, or height, or skin colour, or weight, or…
The existence of balding celebrities does not mean that balding has no affect on sexual attractiveness.
A lot of celebrities are famous for reasons other than attractiveness.
Balding and bald are also different (which was part of my point).
> "There is no general truth to sexual attractiveness as related to hair, or height, or skin colour, or weight, or…"
This is just straight false. There are always varied preferences and outliers, but there are general trends too. You ignore them at your own peril.
When you become comfortable and confident with who you are and recognize what you can't change, you attract the same.
The other stuff does matter too though. It’s better to recognize that rather than pretend it’s all confidence.
The girl that canceled the date didn’t do so because I wasn’t confident, she did so because she saw a picture of me with thinning hair on FB. Another canceled when she found out I was 3 months younger than her. People are picky.
Thankfully I've since met someone really great and I'm now engaged/out of the game. I'm glad.