You are aware that trading is a zero-sum game and that for every winner there's a loser who took the other side of the bet?
edit: maybe a better example. I am confident in $SPCE over the next six months, and I want to open a long position. I want to slightly reduce the risk though, so I also buy an OTM put from you. $SPCE keeps going up, so the put expires worthless. we both won here. you collected the premium and I got into a long position that I wouldn't have otherwise.
About stocks I absolutely agree - history tells us there's a long-term positive (US) market return so it's clear that an average investor should get exactly that return minus costs/fees.