Yes. I agree with you. Much better to steer the ship and never hit the iceberg.
Some situations are like a jiu-jitsu match where an opponent can pin you down. In a subset of these situations and unlike in a jiu-jitsu match—you can’t tap out.
Say you’re in one of these situation.
Don’t avoid the feeling provoked by this impending doom. You can’t tap out. You cant restart the match.
In such an encounter, grace might mean to keep fighting. Keep thinking. Keep struggling. Recognize your prison.
Fortune favors the prepared mind. :)