When you look at studies that used real messaging patterns on a dating website, you can see that people tend to message other people of similar "desirability".
See for example figure 3 in https://advances.sciencemag.org/content/4/8/eaap9815 : "Both women and men tend to contact others who are ranked somewhat—but not excessively—higher than themselves."
I think it's shown that of all women and of all men, there's a lot more desirable women than men. Meaning, the pool of desirable women is vastly larger than desirable men.
The headline of this post agrees with the real data from reports published by OKCupid years ago, back when they were a cool company.
That just sounds like you had an opinion going in. Which happens. This study isn't alone. It happens to confirm other studies saying the same thing. Also, why wouldn't women like the most attractive men if that worked out just fine?
https://senseoffairness.blog/2020/02/14/the-unfairness-of-on...
So, gut feelings don't always match the facts! :)