We do offer ALIAS records between Route 53 hosted zones, and this capability is open to providers such as Netlify. We’d be happy to have customers ALIAS to a hosted zone managed and updated by Netlify. It sounds like your IP addresses are relatively stable, keeping these in sync doesn’t sound like it would be a big deal, and would give you a lever you could pull to change your customer DNS quickly in an event such as this. You could also configure health checks on your own DNS records, which any customer ALIAS records that point to your DNS records in Route 53 would inherit.
If you’re interested in going this route, please contact me at alecpete <at> amazon <dot> com.