There is a little mental excercise I do every time I feel empathy for lone older women. I imagine she is 15-20 younger, I approach her and she ghosts me or laughs me off. There, empathy dissapears.
Dig deeper if you feel your emphaty dissapearing. It is never a good sign.
1. Lonely young men are the subject of hundreds of recent news articles,
2. In the reverse situation, on a thread about lonely young men, nobody would comment to remind us about lonely old women - or, if they did, they would be downvoted to oblivion.
It did not even had anything to do with gender and I was more provocative with other things. It is more that on in those debates, HN kind of idealized old people as being above human needs or some such.
It doesn't.
You've replied to a post about older women, adding nothing to the conversation except to remind us that younger men are important, because that's the societally acceptable way around.
Second, how do you know who this person was long ago? Perhaps you are misjudging someone, and for what?
Third, someone who is not attracted to you deserves to suffer?
What a disconcerting worldview!
Exactly, it would be absolutely perfect if 50+ women were attractive to young men. The fact that women lose fertility (which also makes then less attractive biologically) earlier than men is not something to feel good about.