> Having a different personal definition of a word,

There are only two ways you can go about speaking about sex and gender if you don't use their real meaning:

1. You just don't care. Yeah, not caring about other people is very American. Atlas Shrugged is popular in the US but not elsewhere. Guess why. You can also read up on how the USA became a failed state.

2. You actually do fabricate some alternative meaning. This is also American just a little bit newer than previous. Creating alternative facts, as the neonazis (aka Trump supporters) do wasn't popular before 2017.