It's not impossible to save that much money straight out of school, but if you're making that much then you could still save a decent chunk even if you're paying $2k/mo for an apartment (which comes to $100k over 4 years).
I'm just pointing out the possiblities for them.
Versus them spending about $4k/month on living expenses out of house, 48k/year.
That's also assuming she has a FAANG job, not say, the same expenses but $58k/year starting data eng job.
I also would not have wanted to stay with my parents in my 20s though, at least not with my specific parents.
I've known people who lived at home for a year or two to save money, but I wouldn't have been able to have any independence.
185K delta between the two scenarios feels wrong, though - that's almost 4k a month, an astonishing high rent bill for a couple just out of college. The "find an apartment on their own for 1-2K, maybe even with roommates, but ideally just in a cheaper area" option should be seriously considered compared to living at home. Get a bunch more savings AND some very valuable life experience!
One end is living at home with a faang job. The other is them living on cap hill with around 3800 / month expenses and the 58k income you mentioned. The 3800 is her estimate which checks out.
There are obviously many more options in the decision matrix but this is a HN post :)