Here’s some actual data that suggests “trans women are women for dating purposes” is the opinion of only a small minority:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/026540751877913...
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/026540751877913...
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog...
There are a lot of women I would not want to sleep with. Does not mean I question their gender.