* actually adjusting to textual modes of communication?
I don’t want this to sound trite or disingenuous, and I especially don’t want to assign blame (unless you know me personally, you probably won’t ever encounter an instance of my intentionally assigning blame to individuals), but short-form, semi-synchronous textual communication is just different, to the point that linguists extend the usual classification of discourse from spoken and written into spoken, written, and “IM-ish” (which turns out to be closer to spoken despite using writing). Not all modes of expression are immediately accessible to everybody (I’m constantly anxious over emails, which is tremendously inconvenient), and we should absolutely try and help people adjust, but to say that the mere requirement of adjusting is evidence of inferiority or evil nature is unfair to things that are just not the same as other things (insert UI/UX example here). This is not to say that there are no evil things, just that this particular argument for evilness is so weak as to be tautologically true for almost any thing at all (when I was a child, they would sell vegetables marked “zero cholesterol”).
I mean, “why did [they] do it like this” is one of the most harmless questions to ever exist as far as I can see (provided there’s enough context to figure out what “it” refers to and what “this” specifically is supposed to be surprising, so that it is not disproportionately low-effort or bad-faith obstructive, but that equally applies to spoken interaction). Literally most of my brain-time is devoted to answering questions of this type I ask myself, so when somebody else asks such a question it’s the most unsurprising thing I could imagine. I was similarly baffled when in a recent discussion someone suggested starting a sentence with “I might be wrong, but ...” is perceived as aggressive. How else am I supposed to communicate “I don’t feel competent in this particular area but on general principles I’m fairly sure that ...”, and in what world does warning people of the potential irrelevance of your opinion read as aggressive?
I’d be happy if it turned out I’m just not perceiving a subtlety of language (despite using English for most of my life, I am not and will never be a native speaker), but that’s not what people seem to be saying. A cultural disconnect sounds more plausible (cf. “ ’Splain it to me”), but again “people foreign to the culture can feel uncomfortable or misunderstand” is by itself not a sufficient argument for a change of culture, especially if that culture (chat or comment etiquette) is more or less inherent to the environment (short-form semi-synchronous communication).
[In case the gentle reader is wondering how this comment could ever count as “short-form communication”: I’m like this in person, too. Sigh.]