I’m frequently the odd one out in these conversations but: I don’t want ADHD to be treated as normal. I don’t want it to be treated as not-a-disability. I want it to have intentional accommodations. I want to be recognized and acknowledged as someone with distinct challenges.

I have distinct challenges that I have to address, every day. Normalizing many of them can create more confusion than understanding.

For example, I’m intensely sensitive to sound. A non-ADHD person sensitive to sound in say a shared office would surely benefit from noise canceling headphones. But I’m also very touch sensitive particularly on and around my ears, and that often gives me headaches. A general accommodation for this not only could but has basically left me unaccommadated.

Be kind and don’t make folks lives harder is a good principle. But sometimes acknowledging people have different needs and experiences is part of that.

This isn’t meant as a rebuttal of anything you’ve said, it’s a “yes and” more than anything. But I want it to be part of this conversation too.