By trying to bond with people on an emotional level rather than an intellectual one.

After all, do you want to *be right*, or do you want to connect? At some point I realized that it made no sense to complain about loneliness because I am a brainy type AND simultaneously refuse to engage with other's emotions because they are not brainy as I am.

The book which helped me the most is *non violent communication*. Its like an universal protocol, but still filter the bullshit.

edit: Of course, as other said, growing out of your mental tendency takes years and is still a work in progress. But with this type of thing the way is the destination.