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This is terrible advice. Woe unto anyone who extrapolates from telemarketer interactions to their relationships with their kids.

Especially when the extrapolated practice is not to offer explanations for your thinking. That's how you end up raising a human who is conditioned to accept "because I said so" as valid in their intimate relationships.

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It really is awful advice for relationships.

The advice has strategic advantage in limited situations.

Hiding your decision making from others robs you of the opportunity to learn from others. If your decision is on such weak footing it can’t hold up the the scrutiny of friends and family then perhaps it should be questioned.

If the person doing the questioning is not tending toward appreciative understanding, then avoiding discussion makes sense.

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