Honestly, I'm kind of coming to the conclusion that getting all worked up over forum moderation should probably be a bannable activity in an of itself in most cases, especially if it's a pattern. Wikipedia has an interesting policy WP:HERE, stating that they're here to build an encylopedia, and if a user is WP:NOTHERE, they're likely to get banned sooner or later. People who are very interested in complaining about how the forum us moderated are usually not here to make the forum interesting.
Which probably also led to the original issue of self-promotion and being flagged by others.
It's a fraction of the size of HN, though and requires an invitation to join.