I just don't agree. Much better to set a culture where people are encouraged to put their ego aside and accept being corrected immediately and politely. The repetition and fast iteration is good for learning.
There are, of course, better and worse ways to raise concerns. "Why did you do it this way? It seems to me that . . . " leaves the conversation open to the possibility that there is good reason for something you don't understand. And if there are major problems, it might be better to privately approach someone (and/or their supervisor?) rather than torching them in public.
But if there is a problem, you aren't doing anyone any favors by keeping quiet.
I guess what I'm saying is that "hurt feelings" is most often a result of how feedback is provided, not what feedback or even how much feedback.
No.
Whether shit gets done is the primary concern, when the primary reason we get together, is to get shit done.
But often it's not. Often the people who like dishing it out are the most easily affronted if you tell them they are in the wrong.
Don't get me wrong: I actually agree with you. It's just an unfortunate reality that working with people means dealing with people and feelings are a part of that.
It's hard to establish mutually respectful relationships where both parties are equally able to be straight shooters and actually get things done. When it happens, it's wonderful.
But in most workplaces, that's just not reality. So it's very often the case that taking the time to try to not hurt feelings in the first place is more efficient than dealing with the damn idiotic fallout.
Didn't expect software development to need so much people management.
But I disagree with you more fundamentally. Getting shit done together is a way to enjoy spending time, but in the end, the enjoyment is more important than the result. A job where you are successful but miserable is not worth it. So a job where you are successful by making others miserable isn't either, unless you are somehow special.
That doesn't mean bend backwards trying to avoid any hurt feelings. It does mean putting in some effort to not be hurtful when avoidable.
In that case, it's one of those weird brain associations that pops up.
I stand by the rest, that being unpleasant or hard to work with will make it harder to do cool things. Unless you are literally Elon Musk, Steve Jobs or maybe a few others.
What makes you think it wouldn't [be | have been] easier for them too, if they'd [learn | have learned] to be less of an arsehole?
Sorry, but everybody should be doing this in every job, and in all walks of life, all the time (however, like anything, there are limits).
Concern for other's feelings isn't weakness, nor should it be a second thought - it's a common courtesy.