My childhood gave me great things. I have a worldview that is highly unusual in my peer group, and was directly useful in my career, as I'm a xenophile. I'm not sorry I went through what I went through, but I had to add some loc-tite, later in life, to tighten a few loose screws, from my childhood experiences.
But I am serious. Because of the extracurricular work I do, I am in daily contact with many parents of deceased children (and relatives of other deceased people). Many of the deceased got there through misadventure, suicide, or even murder.
It's really hard to encounter these folks, and not understand that there are depths of feeling, that we can't understand. I would submit that dismissing these feelings that others experience; simply because they don't fit our own worldview, makes our own lives (and the lives around us) darker. It certainly doesn't help us to become better people.
I have likely spent more time around people like this than you.
> I would submit that dismissing these feelings that others experience; simply because they don't fit our own worldview, makes our own lives darker.
Your feelings do not give you the right to deprive others' children of the adversity they need to grow into adulthood.
That's my point.
It’s been over 41 years, for me. Wanna bet?
It’s not my feelings at all. I never said it was.
We’re done here. Have a great day!
> marked by sorrow or melancholy
> pitifully inferior or inadequate
> absurd, laughable
seems accurate enough a word to describe the emotional argument.
I imagined the poster above you having his five-year-old child come home from school with a fresh painting of Mommy and Daddy and the poster snatching it out of their hands, "PATHETIC!" rips up painting
Joking aside, children are not tiny adults, and how you deal with them changes over time.
A five-year-old gets rewarded for just doing work, because that's the baseline. A fifteen-year-old must demonstrate some degree of competence. They are not developmentally identical.
A grown adult obsessed with safety over all other concerns is childish, pathetic, and ironically, dangerous as all hell to others.
Those that prioritize safety above other concerns are the first to use violence against any and all perceived threats to that "safety".