A bidet is just a spigot with a valve. Open valve, blast ass, get clean, close. Unless you have bizarrely cold water, this is all you could ever want or need.
It does get cold during the winter, but it’s not bad at all and it’s so much better than using toilet paper for wiping. I still use some toilet paper for drying, but far less than I used in the pre-bidet era of my life.
My wife says it's OK. But considering what I see get on it (obviously! how could that not be a problem?!) I wouldn't want it spraying on me anyway. It's got a shield thingy that protects it from the worst, but not what comes up from under it. Just nasty.
A separate bidet is probably fine. Never used one, though.
It's probably installed wrong. The aim of them is typically adjusted by various sliders and stuff before doing up the bolts to hold it in place.
Better ones have a "ladies front wash" and "back wash" nozzle, with different aims.
I still intend to get a fancy one with warm water, heated seat, and a glowing bowl (for aiming in the middle of the night ;-)). Some day.
There are some with heated seats, and some that heat the water to a comfortable temp and also some with pumps to supply more pressure. There are dozens on Amazon.