1. financial independence (enough passive income not to work if i prefer)
2. own my own home (large enough to grow a family)
3. have a family
In my mid 30s, pretty much given up on 3 and 2, as 3 depends on 2.
So I am just left with 1 to aim for.
Regardless, it's perfectly possible to succeed at having a happy and fulfilling life without being financially independent. #2 can be achieved if one moves out of the more attractive areas where housing is often far cheaper than in the more hip areas. It may have consequences like an increased commute, or a lower salary, but again, having enough money to never having work isn't going to happen for most of us.
2. and 3. are totally independent from each other, both are made easier by No. 1 so.
Just a general advice, if I may dare, stop putting those things in order, relax and let some things in live just happen. And enjoy the journey as much as possible.
Obviously, that advice only works if you are living in a stable environment. If you don't priorities are going to be topped by, worst case, living to see the next day.
Also mid 30s is so young, you still have at least a decade to find a significant other and build a family if that's what you want.
getting married, having kids, i could do it now, but i would be living as a renter, dependent on my job. i would not be able to sleep at night.
i feel like my parents generation at least had the safety net of social welfare, but that is no longer there.