I mean if you can't stand the people then you're going to have poor relationships with them regardless.
I once worked with a dude that would come into my cubicle every morning eating chunks of watermelon out of a sandwich baggie. He would just stand there smacking his lips and slurping up watermelon juice, purposefully trying to be a dick.
I shouldn’t have to deal with that or be expected to get a new job. And management shouldn’t have to sift through that passive aggressive behavior and make arbitrary judgement calls of who the dick is. Just let me spend the least amount of time as possible with him, and I’ll be happy. Respect my freedom to choose who I want to associate with.
Confronting bullies is a game of chicken and most bullies can't really take it. You just have to hold the line or make them think you will.
Did you try asking him to stop, or to eat somewhere else?
if the elements of a person we find objectionable are things that only exist in person then different modes of communication may mitigate those.
For instance, if someone doesn't like me because I interrupt conversations with irrelevant anecdotes in a way that derails the topic and being on a zoom call makes it much more effort to take over the conversation, then that might actually improve our working relationship.