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Eh, not all people look at their relationship in that specific "work for sex" way. Read up on "invisible labor" if you want to understand why women in particular could get offended by your perspective.

If you're looking for such a relationship, I'm sure you'll find a mate on those terms. But don't claim that this is the only way. And please accept that other people may prefer other setups.

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> Eh, not all people look at their relationship in that specific "work for sex" way.

I'm not talking just about relationships, I'm talking about the asymmetric access men and women have to sex. This is an undeniable fact of life. If a man wants to get laid tonight, he will have to work hard, and his chances are not that high. That's why ~80% of the prostitutes are women... most women just don't need to pay for sex.

Yes that's an undeniable fact of life but that's not the only one informing men/women relationships, not even the main one. It seems though that is the only one you care about

Your point of view is so informed by your situation and has so little empathy that you don't even acknowledge the large portion of women that are not deemed to be fuckable by men and are derided for that, whether because of age, or body type or sometimes because they talk too loud

Relax, it's just culture. People who have open relationships tend not to talk about it. Some because they don't like getting lectured on cultural inventions like monogamy. Others because they don't want to get advances from sex-mercenaries.

So you may just not know what your friends are up to, because why would they tell you of all people? If you allowed a bit of nuance, you could learn surprising things about humans.

For most man yes, some men get laid easily.

True, but even for them it is harder that for most women. I think this is the point above.

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