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Take it from someone who lost his father’s money (all $11,000 of it) in 2014: it’s easier to just get over it as quickly as possible.

None of this will amount to anything, and you’ll feel awful until you give up. Then the healing can begin.

On the other hand, I’m not sure if I was mentally capable of hearing this advice back then, so…

But it’s true. It’s 2022 now. That’s almost a decade ago. In fact I forget when exactly Gox collapsed, which is how little it matters to me now. But back then, it felt like the end of the world.

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> it’s easier to just get over it as quickly as possible. None of this will amount to anything, and you’ll feel awful until you give up

You don't write to your A. G. to get your money back. (You won't.) You do as an act of civic service.

These people will defraud again. Their investors will back people who will defraud again. Putting people in jail doesn't get anyone's money back. But it deters the next fraud.

Write the letter, send the evidence, write off the loss and then move on.

I guess. Just as long as you really embrace the “move on” part.

It was a mistake I made, so I’m just hoping to help people realize that things get so much easier when you stop caring.

So you’re suggesting apathy in the face of victim-hood?

Surely acceptance contains a certain level of neutral emotion. Apathy might be healthier for them than anger, on a historical situation that they can’t bandage. Perhaps they shouldn’t advise apathy, but I see some people move on from some horrific events in a variety of ways, and some of those ways would be marked as unhealthy by pop psychologists. If apathy works for them, who should argue.

Also: are you suggesting they should look at themselves as a victim? They might be in one sense, but in other senses they might not be.

Thinking you’re a victim while speculating is only going to make you miserable in the long run.

Did you have $11k in BTC or in cash?

The way the rehabilitation proceedings are going you will either be able to recover ~20% of the cash, or ~20% of the BTC which would be a considerable gain at this point.

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