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Or he’s just a jerk on the Internet with nonspecific POV just reading your comment and trying to find a piece to sark about.

Good luck with your IVF!

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I'm going to play the devil's advocate here and put out an opinion that having children is a choice (hopefully), and so living paycheck-to-paycheck also seem to be a choice in this case. It may boil down to defining what choice means, in the extreme "choice is doing something that I don't need to survive" and then IVF meets the definition (but then almost everything else meets it as well...).

Definitely not going to defend the way the original opinion was communicated though...

I agree with all your points.

There are all kinds of arguments for having kids or not having kids. It’s a big decision.

Also agreed and more that the original communication was insubstantial garbage.

Thank you! <3

good luck as well. Sometimes we don't meet the right one until we've found ourselves, I'm happy for you. I'm in a similar boat, 1st kid a couple months before my 40th birthday. My only recommendation is get your butt to the gym, being a parent is an active sport and you don't want your kids running circles around you until it's their time.

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