The surface is expanding fairly well uniformly, and the dots are getting further apart. Now if you did the same with a uniform spherical balloon that's inflating somehow, there's no center and no shape to the 2d surface.
Similarly you could be inside a giant cake as it's cooking. Any two raisins will be moving apart and this happens the same way near the middle or halfway to the edge (excluding temperature/pressure unevenness). Now if you make the cake bigger until you can no longer reach the edges it all works the same everyhwere in the cake.
If you take out the non-raisin parts, and the bit where you consider that there might be edges, and that the cake started already big rather than tiny, you get the universe.
However intuitively plausible this seems to you, it's still false. The fact that our intuitive visualization capabilities cannot directly visualize the mathematical entities involved does not change that.
If those axioms are changed, you get a different logical and mathematical outcome.
The comment I responded to was making a categorical statement. A single counterexample is sufficient to falsify it. The entire family of FRW models used in cosmology, in all of which the statement I responded to is false, are counterexamples.
As for a single counter example, you need to demonstrate that the counter example is applicable. I don't think you have. At least not to the degree that would support your categorical claim.
In regards to both of your views, I am making no statement as to validity or otherwise of those statements. This is simply a matter of asking for you and him to provide supporting evidence for your respective positions.
This would then allow further discussion on the views and their evidence.
There is no "border" to our universe. The fact that you have trouble visualizing such models does not mean they don't exist.
We are at the center of our observable universe, yes, but that fact does not support any of the claims I have been responding to in this thread.
It wasn't, according to our best current model. In that model the universe is spatially infinite and always has been, so it contains an infinite quantity of matter.
> wouldn't a limit on the universe size based on how much matter exists
There are mathematical models in which the universe has a finite size and contains a finite amount of matter. (These models are not completely ruled out by our current data, but they are considered very unlikely as compared to the ones in which the universe is spatially infinite.)
However, even in those models, the universe has no boundary: it is spatially a 3-sphere, which has a finite volume and no boundary similar to the way the surface of the Earth, a 2-sphere (at least approximately) has a finite area and no boundary.
For a 2D model, consider only the surface of a balloon. As the balloon expands, each point on the surface increases in distance from every other point, but there is no center of the surface.
Be sure to consider only the surface, not the 3D embedding your (flawed) intuition wants to inject.
You can do the same thing in 1D with a circle.
This works in any dimension, including the 3+1 spacetime manifold.
If you think about what's happening inside a cake when you put it in an oven, it expands in all directions, and the center has only a meaning there because the cake is finite.