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I don’t know your relationship with your kid, but I’m confused when you say you don’t punish your kids. Maybe you use the word “discipline” them or think that because you don’t physically hit them you never punish them. Talking to/lecturing can be seen as a form of punishment. Refusing to punish a child for their poor behavior could be interpreted as neglect.

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I suspect there are still consequences here, but GP commenter does not regard them as punishment. I can't imagine parenting without any consequences. Like, I'm going to grab your arm if you run into the road, obviously. Where you draw the line on that depends on the parent.

Lecturing being a punishment is too flimsy a proposition to build a credible argument on top of. Hardly anyone could see it that way for more than a few seconds without pulling a muscle. At worst it's simply asserting your status as the parent.

Maybe I’m weird, but I hate being lectured, to the point where I’d much prefer physical pain towards me (within reason of course).

I would rather get punched in the face than be forced to listen to the average person speak for more than 5 minutes, my father, maybe I’d give him 3 minutes of lecturing before I’d prefer the punch, we don’t have a great relationship. Many children probably feel the same way.

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