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Looking at people my age it is only gonna get worse, considering how even relationships work now. Hundred years ago you would be happy to recieve a written letter every month or so, nowadays not responding to your partner within seconds could be treated as a valid reason for breaking up...

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But you would primarily live with the person or within walking distance. Hundreds of years ago if you ignored your partner for the whole day while living with them that would probably be grounds to break up as well.

A bullet dodged, I guess. But yes, norms are changing, not for the better.

Yeah, the vast majority of people would see it as erratic to break up with someone for not responding to a text within a few seconds. It's not culture or technology that's the issue, but the personality of the anxious person who ask to break up over just that.

I think it's both the individual personality as well as growing up in an online world. I'm not an expert but I'm thinking it has the power to actively rewire a person's brain. If in your entire lifespan so far you do not know any better than for everything to be available always and instantly, that creates an entirely different creature.

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