1. Salt. You want at least 2% by weight (vegetables and water). Recipes differ, up to 5-ish %, just follow the recipe.
2. Anaerobic. No need to fear opening the jar every now and then, but submerge the vegetables in the brine and don't stir the brine much when you open the jar (to taste it, for example). There may be white fungus on top where the brine-air line is, but that's benign. Just skim it off.
If you make sure those two conditions are met, lactobacilla (and yeast) will out-compete everything else. Especially everything dangerous.
if there is stringy/fluffy mold then your ferment went south and you should throw generally to be on the safe side. if it's more brain like white folding without wispy bits you should be ok to just skim it. (kahm yeast is harmless generally)
if you are really paranoid you can buy some pH strips to see if the lacto bacteria got the veggies down to the proper pH. botulism is basically impossible for a setup like this as long as you are following the basic guidelines and not trying to do some weird canning/fermentation setup. (botulism needs low competing bacteria[aka improper canning where you kill off all the good bacteria and leave the botulism spores], low salinity [more canning], anaerobic environment[technically this can happen in a ferment since the outgas from the bacteria is co2], and finally non-acidic environment[the lacto bacillus makes it an acidic environment pretty quickly])
there's also two schools of thought to letting it be or pushing down. some people push the ferment down under the brine every day until it gets established and some people let it go until they taste it however long it that takes. the first camp think that by doing that you push any potential contaminants down under the brine where it can't reproduce that well so there is never any big problem. the second camp just take the chance that they were clean enough to not introduce any molds (but there are molds in the air)
the other thing you can do to help is to make your own co2 blanket by mixing baking soda and vinegar and then pouring the co2 over the open jars. Be careful not to splash any of that liquid into your brine though! (similar to how you blow out a candle in science class). I've tried it and it seems to help but i'm not 100% convinced it is required.
I got the original grains from Facebook marketplace or something, we met in a carpark and she sold me a jar for $10 and the whole thing felt a bit like a drug deal. Just like transplanting a plant, you might have middling results until the organisms get used to your way of doing things (your water and room temperature, how long you wait, milk ratio, etc).
Then I forgot about it for a while and it all died but it was very obvious when it "turned", and took a lot longer than expected.
I also managed to give some scoby away, to a couple friends and the person who invented the nicotine patch - so that part is also apparently common!
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OK, not seriously, but that does sound amazing. I love mango and I love hot peppers, including Carolina Reaper, so that sounds like something I should try.
When reapers are out of season, you can substitute with 6 habaneros. Same level of heat (maybe a bit less), but slightly different flavors since reapers and habaneros' fruity flavors are different.
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Seriously my favorite hot sauce of all time. It would be easy to let the scotch bonnet overwhelm things, but it's such a nice balance, it's only considered a "medium" heat overall.