What you’re annoyed with is how others prioritize which issues outweigh their coupled choice issue. But would you take away their choice to prioritize value in that way?
There are two modes of operation: for society to strive for objective truth together to reach a consensus congruent with reality, or to arbitrarily reach consensus and occasionally face the consequences of our idiosyncrasies.
The objective truth we must strive for is fundamental moral law. It is to that one must appeal, lest their opinion lead us to bear the consequences of their ineptitude.
We can give this fundamental moral law any name we want, but I’ll call it “God’s opinion” because it would take God to know all the ins and outs of it.
Now, are you expressing annoyance because others contradict your opinion or God’s? How would you or others know the right opinion to have, which aligns with fundamental moral law?
However, such religion can no longer be universal, since for most people habits are not defined through religion anymore.
Counterintuitively, the religions/sects that do exactly what you’re describing happen to be the most successful. Not only do they seem to hold on to adherents at a much higher rate than their more lenient peers, their adherents tend to be far more fecund.
I suppose from a pseudo Darwinian standpoint, this strategy is more successful. I don’t recall what study this was from, but based on current trends in the year 2100, 50% of Christians in the United States with either be Amish or Mormon. Over 50% of Jews will be Orthodox/Ultra Orthodox rather than Reform. All because these religions/sects do precisely what we think they shouldn’t be doing.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rumspringa
Interestingly these communities have a mechanism for selecting out those who do not wish to comply or conform.