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Hmm. That is a good question. Upon reflection it is more about me than her. I went out of my way to not let her laptop or my PC back then upgrade to Win10. I do have strong views on telemetry and any new Windows laptop will likely not listen to me when I ask it not to do things I don't want done ( which seems to be a common issue with software these days ).

The benefit for her is the same as the benefit for me. I would like to keep as much of my life as private as possible. I am not sure bare Windows is the best way to achieve that goal ( even if she does not think it is relevant, her disregard for privacy considerations kinda forces me to put some blocks in place ). In case you are wondering, we have discussed privacy implications, but I am learning to pick my hills carefully.

Out of the two evils, I would sooner do Windows ( because then at least I can gut it ). I wouldn't be able to do it Chromebook. Separately, she already said no to Macbook ( so at least she is consistent - no OS change ).

So you're basically forcing your decisions on to her? You've forced your decision of not upgrading to the latest windows version. And now you want to go out of your way to not get her a laptop she would be happy with. All because you're not happy with what many would consider be a minor issue.

Since you're saying you've already talked about the privacy implications I'm going to assume your wife has made her opinion clear. Yet here you are trying to figure out how to get her to do what you want. Seems very controlling and generally controlling partners aren't healthy ones. Maybe you should seek some therapy (not couples therapy, just therapy for you) to help you get over this controlling urge you have.

That seems.. unnecessarily harsh? I am not going to play armchair psychiatrist though. With that in mind allow me to focus on a technical piece:

<<You've forced your decision of not upgrading to the latest windows version.

Hmm. Why would you assume it was forced? At the time, my wife could barely mount an objection in that area. From her perspective, if status quo is maintained, it is good. Beyond that though, Windows 7 upgrade was an effective downgrade ( addition of telemetry being one sticking point, but there were others ).

Edit: I am not going to respond to this portion of the post anymore. I dislike playing a game of gotcha especially if I do not see a good faith effort to respond to me. Apart from everything else, I do not think it is in the spirit of HN.

> That seems.. unnecessarily harsh?

That was me honestly, trying not to be harsh. And it seems necessary.

> Why would you assume it was forced? At the time, my wife could barely mount an objection in that area.

Barely, so she did? And more or less, this was a decision made by you? That is how you put it across.

Edit: It's not a game of gotcha, it's that you made this clear and it was obivous. As I said, you put it across that you made the decsion and acted upon it. And seriously, look into getting help. It's not healthy.

> my wife could barely mount an objection

So she did mount an objection?

This whole comment is incredibly overreaching and reflects a lot more on you than the GP.

You should probably try and re-read it and take stock of where you're at.

I recently encountered https://privacy.sexy here. It looks like it handles the telemetry side really well… as long as you’re happy to run a ton of someone else’s bash script as an administrator. It’s all open source.

Spybot Anti-Beacon blocks Microsoft telemetry. Worth the small fee for peace of mind.

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