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Some people insanely detest being manipulated - even if it is for their own good (that's at least what the manipulating person claims). I personally observe this "manipulation-detesting" character trait in particular to be prevalent in hacker circles.

By the way: this is also a reason that I see why so many hackers date differently from the typical population since dating is about manipulating the other side to love one.

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Q Biggie: You hit the nail on the head. Most hackers I know are thinking "run away" when they see / hear a sales person. "Oh fu-k, what are these people trying to sell or make me do?" When I re-read this post, I feel the same about senior technical management that does nothing more than powerpoint, email, meetings, and phone/vid calls. The last time they wrote code or did anything technical was (frequently) never, or so long ago that the technology sounds like an archeological dig!

> since dating is about manipulating the other side to love one.

Sounds like you're doing it wrong.

> Sounds like you're doing it wrong.

Then I have to conclude that a lot of dating advice that one finds is plainly wrong: "show off your best side" is for example an instance of "manipulate the other person to believe that you are of higher value than you actually are (and thus a relationship with you is a better deal than it actually is)".

I'd agree that it's wrong. If the person you're dating isn't comfortable with you being yourself, then it's probably the wrong person. Presenting a fake impression of yourself to convince them to stick around seems like a poor foundation for a relationship.

you just need to keep this until Death coming.

That has not been my experience of dating at all fwiw

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