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If we're going to redefine dating profiles I'd like to propose my ideal: A random sampling of 10 of your recent conversations with others. I know that's not feasible and wouldn't happen if it was. But I think for me one of the most important things is figuring out who this person really is in practice.

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The problem with that is the heavy bias towards people having a good day, and the chilling effect it will have as everyone spends their lives talking in an instagram worthy way. Black mirror.

Goodhart's law strikes again.

Doesn’t matter. For me I’m looking for someone that does good to others. If people are doing that because they’ve been tricked into it then so be it.

Saying the right things for the media and doing good are 2 different things.

Struggling with what this would mean in practice -- do you mean like a screenshot / recording of the text / voice conversations you've had? I wonder if it might be tough to filter out things that are mostly just logistics, which personally tend to be a big percentage of my electronic-based interactions.

I mean face-to-face interactions. The goal is to find someone that cares about others and can think selflessly on a regular basis.

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