No, you dohave a valid list of features you want to group together, but attaching them to a word you have not clearly defined -- especially in this incredibly fraught case -- is just confusing you. If you haven't decided on a definition, you can't agree on a definition with anyone you are conversing with, and you will just talk past everyone. That is how this topic usually goes.

There's not some objectively true definition or there that you are homing in on with your intuited features.