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Don't be an ass. He's referring to the way in which all kids see their parents as having a particular occupation. He's not saying that he built his career at Twilio at his daughter's expense.

I also don't think he built his career at his daughter's expense, I'm saying that the over-dramatization of the post leads to this even being something to call out, even when it shouldn't be.

You can call me names all you like, but don't expect people to not question intent over a poorly-conceived sentence.

You're right: what you wrote is poorly conceived. You can probably just delete it (or edit-clear it)! I'm an ass all the time; I'm not high-horsing you, but maybe we'd all just be better off if this whole subthread vanished.

The guy worked there for 9 years. That's a really long time, longer than many posters here's entire careers (mine included), and longer than most of us will ever work at a given job. Of course he's going to be emotionally invested, and knocking him for this is a bit cruel.

Not so long ago, your kids _would_ know you as someone who drives buses for the local bus company, delivers the post, or works down the mine.

This is fair take, but I do think there is an additional difference between being emotionally attached to your job, and the content of the post.

I also think there's a big difference between a very high-visibility job like a bus-driver/mail-delivery-worker/mine-worker (where the labor is very accessible/visible to kids), and one in software engineering (my parents work with computers at some company?)

You give your kids half the random swag you get. You involve them by letting them see your job, etc. My older kid has eaten in Google cafeterias, comes to my office at cmu after school to hang out and do her homework there, etc. You _want_ them involved at some level. It's part of modeling being an adult.

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