Seriously, though, for a group of people who like to call each other out on standards of conduct, it's pretty appalling that they used a derogatory term to jokingly dismiss their utter lack of expertise in the area.
................ Technical ...... Social
Title ............ Skills ......... Skills
---------- ---------------- ------------
Normie ......... No ............. Yes
Geek ........... Yes ............. Yes
Nerd ............ Yes ............. No
Dork ............ No .............. No
I prefer "nerd".
But I agree about the way that either can be used as positive expression of self-regard, while still coming across as derogatory when used by people who are not in the club and unsympathetic towards those who are.
In this regard, both words differ from 'dork', which never seems to be a good tag.
Language is important.
There was a post on here recently about the communication problem, and it's spot-on. Just like we can't characterize SOPA/PIPA as "the anti-piracy bills," we can not allow ourselves to be demeaned.
SOPA/PIPA are the internet censorship bills. They are the defeating due process bills.
We are experts. We are architects and engineers of the technical infrastructure.
Call yourself what you want but realize that, in the greater world, these terms serve only strip you of authority. That's unacceptable.