> if they wish to "have the kind of relationship their parents had."

Ah yes the average boomer relationship, where two barely compatible people married when they were like 16 because they lived on the same street and then spent their entire life quietly resenting each other (but not quite enough to divorce and/or because they're financially co-dependent) and proceeded to take their problems out on their kids through emotional abuse. Kids who now, surprise surprise, are having all kinds of problems.