Having a friend does it mean that you have access to that friend all of the time or even most of the time. Adult friendships are usually held by people who have very busy lives with their family and other friends.

There are a lot of popular tropes and memes about adult friendship being a series of “we should catch up soon” back and forth until one of you dies.

It doesn’t mean the friendships aren’t real. But having children and a job can pretty much suck the oxygen completely out of the ability to have and maintain frequent contact with friends.

I’m in my 50s and have several friends that I would consider very very good friends. We all have very different schedules and family obligations. If I’m very lucky, I might see them once a month. This isn’t like college when you might see your friend every day for several hours.

So if you’re a single person and your friends have families, it’s real possible to be lonely in the spaces between when you get to spend time with your friends.

If your friends all have families they don’t have a whole lot of time to hang out with their one single, lonely friend who lives in another state.

Maybe a phone call here or there but the going ons of the kids and grandkids take priority.

These things happen.

You can’t lose somebody who’s in your heart.

"The best spot in hell"

"The best outcome given the circumstances"

"Make the best of a shitty situation"

"The best way to eat poop when you lose a bet is to add plenty of sugar"

It’s it? Best is the best as long as there are no other bests. If something else is better than X, then X is no longer best.

Would you rather lose all your money or your eyes and hands? Which one is best?