Its frustrating to realize we've been at this task of raising and educating children for the better part of 250,000 years and we still haven't got the knack of it.
Mostly, from what I can tell, if children aren't mistreated, are encouraged and helped along the way, they end up pretty okay regardless of how we characterize the process involved. Humans come curious and inquisitive from the factory, we mostly just need to get out of the way and fill in any accidental omissions.