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> I'd be interested in a ceremony celebrating a commitment to cohabitation and partnership that sheds the baggage of a wedding and marriage.

Especially if it didn't involve renting a venue, 25% mark ups, hurt feelings from non-invited folks, decades of expectation building, and an industrial complex focused on money extraction.

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ehh, it's a choice to buy into any of that bullshit.

we eloped $3,000km away to the tropics to get married. it was more of a holiday with a wedding day thrown in. we loosely, no expectations, invited a few friends and family and were pleasantly surprised to find 30 people met us there.

The whole thing, holiday and all cost us around $10k and was a total blast.

I found the traditional wedding day routine to be super claustrophobic and rigid.

The industry says weddings are "all about the bride", and IME the marketing seems almost exclusively targeting women and their anxiety. So it may be challenging to find a partner similarly minded.

Precisely

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