This might be crazy but... what if you set a meta-goal of being the best at... balance?

So for instance, if you must win at everything you try, and you avoid everything else, that is not balance. If you choose what to do to "win" and what to do to "enjoy" that is moving towards balance.

Perfect balance would be counteracting the stress you place upon yourself to win with the happiness you get from enjoying processes.

If you decide that you are pursuing balance, then you can be the best at that too.