It's like going through life with autism and being called "neurodiverse" as if you haven't lived with an active disability your whole life, you're just a little different from everyone else.
Back in the early 2000s I saw someone refer to a wheelchair-bound person as "handicapable". The disabled fellow ran over his foot lol.
Point being I think it's best not to minimize people's suffering. Acknowledge it, respect it, and try to move forward together.